The care and counsel of ministers is a very particular practice. For over thirty years Kris has been a “pastor to pastors” and has more than twelve years working in denominational ministry. Her practice with ministers and people entering (and considering) ministry is two-fold: effectiveness and sustainability.
Kris works with the theory that each of us leaves a ministry by one of six “Ds”:
- Design (when you come to accomplish a certain task and leave when it’s done so the next person can come with their gifts and skills to take the congregation to its next level of effectiveness)
- Decision (you decide for whatever reason that it’s time for you to move on)
- Determination (the congregation decides for you)
- Disability (due to an accident or because of a serious or chronic illness)
- Death (this and disability are usually directly related to an inability to leave when we need to – by design, decision, or determination … particularly determination!)
- Done (when we get to retire! – Whew-HOOOOOOOO!)
If we want to leave by Design, Decision, and, when it’s time, Done; we have to work at it. And we can’t do that without being clear about what our personal Values, Mission, and Vision are. We have to be – or become – comfortable with who we are … and aren’t. And we have to continually cultivate our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self-care.
To that end, Kris’ work with ministers includes the following:
- Call clarification
- Decision-making – identifying and exploring your options so you have good choices to choose from
- Spiritual Direction
- Conflict intervention
- Crisis Consulting and Coaching
- Reality checks, stress relief & support, and a non-judgmental listening ear
- Accountability for productivity, self-care, and sanity within the chaos that comes with ministry
Annnnnnnd she provides her clergy contract clients with a number they can call day or night when they need it.